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June 22, 2003

I don't want to say goodbye

Since last discussed here and here, my grandmother Belle has had some difficultly recovering the last week and may only have a few days or only a week left to live.

According to her husband Hans, my Aunt Gail, and cousin Lisa she has given up and doesn't want to live anymore. They say she has started refusing treatment and is not eating or drinking enough fluids, taking medication, or regulating her diabetes.

My grandmother has always been a person that has acted defeatist when she gets ill. She tends to think she'll never get well and is better off dying. However she's never refused treatment before so I am a little surprised and alarmed as to what she is now thinking according to the family members on the scene.

The most disturbing aspect of this is; she only has one internal infection and with proper treatment she can recover despite the uncomfortableness of it. The family there has said they have tried to reason with her but without any luck. My mother and I will have to ask her for ourselves to see if this is what she really wants when we see her but if she doesn't want to live anymore I am not sure what we can do other than make her feel comfortable, support her decision, and let her know we love her. This is truly difficult.

My mom and I are flying out tomorrow on the first available flight. I don't expect I'll have much time to do any blogging, IRCing or BBSing.

Please add my grandmother to your prayers.

Posted in Main by usrbingeek at 2003-06-22 15:40 ET (GMT-5) | 6 Comments | Permalink



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*hugs* Already there...

Posted by: Tina at June 22, 2003 04:40 PM

I'll be thinking of your family... hope it goes good
we'll be here to talk if you need to.

Posted by: Freekie at June 22, 2003 09:13 PM

My mother started talking about giving up and stopping treatments, and began preparing for death, after a hospital stay with an infection. However, it turns out that her mental state was due to her (involuntary) withdrawal from antidepressants. (The hospital she stayed at had withheld some of her medications which were interfering with treatment) Once she resumed taking all her meds again, she was back to her usual self, thankfully. Is it possible that the same thing could have happened to your grandmother? It just seems like such a rash decision... I hope she turns around. Strength to you at this time.

Posted by: londoncammie at June 24, 2003 03:16 PM

My mother started talking about giving up and stopping treatments, and began preparing for death, after a hospital stay with an infection. However, it turns out that her mental state was due to her (involuntary) withdrawal from antidepressants. (The hospital she stayed at had withheld some of her medications which were interfering with treatment) Once she resumed taking all her meds again, she was back to her usual self, thankfully. Is it possible that the same thing could have happened to your grandmother? It just seems like such a rash decision... I hope she turns around. Strength to you at this time.

Posted by: londoncammie at June 24, 2003 03:16 PM

Im sorry usrbin... Good luck with everything and your grandma will be in my prayers.

Posted by: Cory at June 24, 2003 07:19 PM

I'm sorry to hear that. I lost my Grandmother earlier this year. I hope the situation turns around, you're both in my prayers.

Posted by: Otto at June 25, 2003 11:15 AM










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